We have just returned from a wonderful trip and we are ready to make a confession: We have finally discovered that we are "Bad Tourists." Well, perhaps we knew it all along, but we have never as fully embraced it as we did on this trip. And we certainly have never been ready to make such a public admission.
Oh, yes, before we visit a place we do all the right things: We talk to fellow travelers, read guidebooks, scan a myriad of travel magazines, look online, plan our days...the whole shebang. And then, when we get to where we are going, we put it all aside. Well, perhaps not all of it, but enough that we leave ourselves the time and space to simply wander in a new place and see what we can discover. After all, why should travel be such a serious business? Why not follow the sage advice we stumbled upon on a wall on Brick Lane in London: Be Playful? OK, don't mind if I do!
In letting ourselves treat travel as play, we have made all sorts of delightful discoveries, finding urban wisdom and images that make us smile. Sometimes you just have to follow this advice found in Amsterdam:
...And then you see things you might never have noticed before. Like this image: The love may be worn, but it still calls out to us in London:
And, wow, the invitation to sit and chat in front of a coffee shop with this resident of Tallinn, Estonia certainly wasn't mentioned in the guidebooks:
And then there are things that you could not have imagined having the good fortune to discover. Take these lovely images from a mural painted by Eeva Janes inside the small chapel at the Consistory of the Estonian Evangelical Lutheran Church in Tallinn. We would never have known they existed but for the generosity of the kind man who was pushing the front door just as we were pulling it. We didn't realize until later that it was the Dean of the Church, Reverend Arho Tuhkru, who recovered from his surprise and so generously invited us in. More than that, despite being on his way out with backpack in hand, he changed his plans and took the time to show us around. He gave us the gift of his time and the gift of sweet images from the chapel that touch us, still. Like this Angel...
...and these lovely flowers...

And this image of generosity and compassion...
But there was more, another lovely surprise. Reverend Tuhkru led us to the top floor to show us this angel, an image recovered from a frieze painted when the building originally was built, in 1693. It had been covered up for years until it was discovered when the building was renovated:
If we had followed the guidebooks, we wouldn't have had the delight of these discoveries.
So being playful, open and "Bad Tourists" seems to serve us well. We no longer struggle about it. We will go our own way in our travels, and see what we find and what finds us. I suppose we just have finally decided that we are old enough now to choose how we approach and explore the new places we visit.
Of course, this stance may not sit well with others. We did receive a disapproving look from a fellow traveler when we revealed that we visited Stockholm and did not go to the Vasa Museum. But, you know, the Vasa Museum will be there for a while. The lovely piece of urban wisdom that we discovered on this Stockholm window won't be:
Words of wisdom for us all, don't you think?